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i'm cranky today.

i hate movember. i think that growing a mustache for charity is a shitty idea, but then i don't like charity events that call for any kind of dog-and-pony-show business. and i especially don't like listening to women complain about their menfolks' tempstaches. i wonder, if there was a charity thing wherein women were encouraged to grow and groom their pit hair, would it get as much dap? i highly doubt it.

my thanksgiving day alone plans have been wrecked.
however, it looks like i'll be flying solo on both christmas and new years, and for at least a week in january.

the cold war kids sound like joan armatrading. nobody should sound like joan armatrading.

no, the muppets should not host the oscars.

and in further unpopular opinion, the whole "it gets better" movement is lame - it encourages passivity and acceptance rather than action. it's not a movement that strengthens the individual or even works towards making things - whatever those things may be - better; it's just patronizing.

stab stab stab.

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germanlandis
Nov. 15th, 2011 09:52 pm (UTC)
I secretly seriously hate all cancer fundraisers and attempts to 'raise awareness'. I totally agree that cancer is a terrible thing to happen to anybody, it's an awful way to die, but I'm tired of it being the only disease that people seem to care about. Why doesn't anybody care about AIDS anymore, or chronic kidney disease, which is surely a terrible condition that affects and kills millions of very young people? I'm also sick of it being a game, with stupid mustaches and asshole Facebook memes. I think anybody who was undergoing chemotherapy wouldn't really feel reassured because some idiot grew a mustache during November for them. I think that anybody who participates in a 'what colour is your bra' meme on Facebook should be forced to spend a significant amount of time volunteering at a cancer clinic, holding vomit basins for radiation patients and watching people die, so they get some idea of how fucking serious this disease is.

so, I agree!
4hour_ramona
Nov. 15th, 2011 10:41 pm (UTC)
i know. if you want to "support" cancer, give money directly to a research organization with a good track record and low administrative overhead. the time and energy that goes into all the </i>horrible disease=funtimes for me</i> parties/fundraisers and all could be better spent.

i think a part of it is that people often feel helpless, like they want to do soemthing, but don't know what, and need guidance. and the guidance that's most often followed is easy, meme and party stuff. i get that, but i also wish people would just try harder. in this, and in a lot of things, really.

if you want to show support for my endo, you could get branded on your lower abdomen and wear tight jeans. or, if you'd rather, maybe just read up on it a little and have a conversation with me about it.
germanlandis
Nov. 15th, 2011 10:55 pm (UTC)
I get the helpless thing entirely; sometimes I feel helpless myself. I had a CKD patient one day who was like, 30, and in end stage renal failure and in need of a transplant or something like that, and I tweeted about how it was awful that this disease killed so many people at such a young age, and a CKD sufferer found me on Twitter and befriended me and thanked me for speaking up about it. It might not be MUCH of something, but at least I befriended someone who has gone through two renal transplants and could use my support. I mean, it's just Twitter but at least I made a real human connection, you know? I think that counts for doing something rather than nothing.
4hour_ramona
Nov. 15th, 2011 10:57 pm (UTC)
i'm sure it meant a lot to the person on the other side of the connection! far more than a 5k fun run would ever have!
germanlandis
Nov. 15th, 2011 11:01 pm (UTC)
ideally I'd like to find time to volunteer for the Kidney Foundation. perhaps in the future. Weekly dialysis is no kind of life.
coconuthead
Nov. 16th, 2011 03:23 am (UTC)
I was given tickets to the local humane society fundraiser a few weeks ago. Sure seems like a lot more could get done if people would just give time and money without having to be entertained, silent auctioned, and wine sampled into doing so.
4hour_ramona
Nov. 16th, 2011 06:42 pm (UTC)
yeah - tons of work goes into the extras. and i understand that it's nice to thank those who give and all, but it shouldn't be a mandatory thing. or even expected.

that said, i was at a fundraising auction recently and it was fun and all, and once the wine started flowing there was a bit of good-natured one-upsmanship in the bidding department.

roshi
Jan. 15th, 2012 02:15 am (UTC)
[hi, found you via lakmekapay, I'm in a socialising mood so you get a random drive-by comment/rant... and I had to chime in on something I agree with]

The "it gets better" thing gives me the shits too. You know what would be better? NOT HAVING PEOPLE SHAMED, TEASED, BULLIED AND BEATEN FOR THE WAY THEY ARE (I'm talking about GLBT-oriented stuff here as that's the campaign I'm most familiar with). It shouldn't HAVE to "get better". There shouldn't be a "bad" for things to get better FROM.

That sort of philosophy (just put up with it, it will pass) is pretty enabling for the people that do the abusing/teasing/shaming/bullying/beating too. Telling a person who is bullied and/or abused because of the way they are/look/whatever to (essentially) stop complaining about now because you'll move on to bigger and better things soon... that doesn't help stop the abuse NOW. It tells them to put up with it, to be complacent and take what's given to them, and that is crap. None of the onus is on the people doing the teasing/bullying/whatever, and shouldn't it be???!
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